I never believed when anyone would tell me that "you'll get past the pain" or "there's happiness to be had" etc etc etc. I thought I could never get past the shattering blow to my heart when my ex left for no goddamn reason.

But I'm here as proof. There's light beyond the shock. You will figure out life. Focus on doing better for yourself. There's better people out there for you to connect with. In friendship and in romance. There's people out there who will give you love and care in the ways you need that you probably never had in your marriage. Focus on your kids if you have em. Focus on improving your skills. Get damn good or better at your job. Find a new job if you don't like yours. Build confidence. Be confident in who you are and what you offer. Drop friends who aren't worth your time. Get new friends if you want socializing. Do things you enjoy. Pick up new things to be interested in. Hop on dating apps. Just talk and perhaps flirt with people. Have a one night stand if you want. Get the legal process of divorce https://onlinedivorcer.com/blog/stages-of-divorcing-a-narcissist and selling homes etc etc done and behind you, and fuckin move forward.